https://scatter.wordpress.com/2008/02/20/how-to-be-a-good-advisee/
As I suggested in response to the thread about picking an advisor, it is a mistake to view an advisor as a commodity for which you comparison shop, as you might select a new dress. Rather, it is a two-sided process of building a long-term relationship. Your own behavior and characteristics are just as important as the advisor’s, and it isn’t just a matter of finding the right person, it is a matter of acting in ways that make both of you feel good about your interactions. So it is important to consider what makes the experience good for the advisor, not just what makes it good for the student. In the long run, former advisees are friends and junior colleagues and part of your professional network. Having former students who do well in the profession make you look good. But there can be plenty of immediate rewards in the advising experience itself. This varies somewhat depending on personalities, of course, and others may have other opinions. But here are the things I think about when I reflect on advisees I have appreciated and advisees who have been less satisfactory.
1. Accept that most academics are introverts with underdeveloped social skills. Although there are certainly exceptions, we are, as a class, awkward and a little weird and tend to combine academic/intellectual arrogance with insecurity and competitiveness. If you are a graduate student, you most likely fit this profile, too. So give yourself and your potential advisor a break. Don’t take it personally if initial interactions are awkward. And forgive us if we seem pompous and full of ourselves; years of having people write down everything you say tends to warp even the strongest sense of personal humility. While you may ultimately decide that a personality mis-fit is too large for a decent working relationship, don’t decide this too quickly if the person might otherwise be someone good for you to work with. Instead, approach the problem like an adult and accept your half of the responsibility for building a relationship in spite of personality quirks.
2. Try not to take out your ambivalent feelings about your parents on your advisor. The parent-child model is a very bad one for the advisor-advisee relationship, and advisees acting out the rebellious teenager or the clingy toddler can be very difficult to deal with. The advisor-advisee mentor-mentee relationship is hierarchical, but it is a relationship between adults. The more you can draw on your adult feelings about yourself, and your adult understandings about the imperfections of other adults, the easier the relationship will be. (I’m not denying that some advisors have their own issues, I’m just encouraging you to try to play the part of adult and not contribute to other dynamics.)
3. I realize many of you hate the relationship metaphors, but in my department, we tell first year students that a first advisor is more like “going steady” than a marriage. It is really too early for any long-term commitment on either side. It is my habit always to tell first year students who ask me to advise them that they should treat this as a temporary relationship that they should feel free to dissolve as appropriate depending on their interests. Think of this as a relationship you are building over time, with low commitment initially.
4. Take some initiative in moving the relationship forward. If the advisor does not seek you out for meetings, take the initiative to make appointments or otherwise communicate. Figure out how your advisor likes to communicate, and try to adapt. Some people like email, some hate it. Some like regular appointments, some like drop in visitors, etc. If you would like to coauthor something with your advisor and s/he does not bring up the subject, you can bring it up. “Is there a project I could work with you on?” “Would you be interested in being a coauthor on my master’s thesis to turn it into a publication?” (Coauthoring is a more intense level of involvement than “giving comments” to an advisee. Many of us learn how to write for publication by coauthoring. In general in sociology, the lead author is the person whose idea it is, who writes the first draft. Coming on as a coauthor is taking a junior or subordinate role in a publication.) If you would like more comments on your papers, or more directive advice about courses, or more appreciation for the difficulties in balancing your work-home responsibilities – ask for it. If you are worried about this, you can ask tentatively: Could I talk with you about my courses for next term? If your advisor does not respond as you wish, then you can update your evaluation of the relationship. But don’t just suffer in silence wishing s/he would do something s/he is not doing.
5. Ask for advice and help. Too many students think they have to pretend to know everything to make a good impression. Wrong. Trying to act like you know everything just makes you seem like an arrogant jerk, and avoiding your advisor until you have figured out enough to impress him/her is a recipe for failure. Part of the emotional satisfaction of the advising relationship is feeling good about being asked for advice and feeling good about giving advice that is helpful to someone else.
6. Take your advisor’s advice, although not slavishly. If you repeatedly refuse to do what your advisor suggests, your advisor will not find the relationship satisfying. Conversely, when you take your advisor’s suggestions and do well, it makes your advisor feel good about his/her competence as an advisor. This is not to say that you should always do what your advisor tells you to, as the advisor may be wrong, or may be wrong for you. But if you regularly avoid or ignore your advisor’s opinions about what you should do, the relationship will be frustrating on both sides.
7. Get things done. It is fun to talk with students about their ideas. But if you cannot generate written papers, after a while you will become tedious to work with, no matter how interesting you are in a conversation. I remember a student who asked me, many years ago, “I know I need to publish to get a job. How do I publish articles?” I responded, “Well, the first thing you have to do is to write something.” If you are working on a research team, you have to get your part of the work done. The most satisfying thing you can do for your advisor is produce good work. The first step to producing good work is producing some work.
8. Be willing to show imperfect work to your advisor and accept criticisms and suggestions about how to improve. It is your advisor’s job to read work that you think is done and tell you how to improve it in the next revision. This is frustrating in the short run but is what will make you a better scholar in the long run. Do not assume that your first drafts are golden. It is not an insult to receive criticism of your work, and you will be really annoying if you respond to critique with hostility or argument. (This does not mean that you have to agree with every point of the critique.) And do not shrivel up into a little ball if or run away if you get critical comments. It does not mean you are stupid if you receive criticism of your work: what academics do is read and criticize what people write.
9. Be willing to disclose problems and vulnerabilities to your advisor. Tell her/him if you are struggling with statistics, battling depression, breaking up with your love interest, exhausted from child care, wondering whether you really have an academic interests that could be worth all the grief of graduate school, can’t figure out how to get all the work done, are feeling inadequate in your teaching assignment, are worried about money, etc. If you are of a different cultural background from the advisor, it can often be helpful to name that and ask whether there may be cultural norms or cues that may lead to misunderstandings. It is OK to talk about good stuff, too, by the way. It is great to mention the happy parts of your life that have nothing to do with work/school. Obviously, you have to gauge reactions and it is perfectly reasonable to self-disclose in small bursts. But if you are extremely reserved and fearful of revealing anything about yourself that does not show you to be a brilliant always-working scholar, you’ll just play into your own fears and make the relationship with the advisor that much more tense.
10. No matter how much you love your advisor, get to know other faculty and ask their advice, too. Remember, you need five people on a dissertation committee and at least three people who know you well enough to write you good letters when you are on the job market. If you work with a team of advisors, you can balance their strengths and weaknesses. Never be in a situation where the only person who knows you is your advisor. Always take initiative to get to know other faculty.
11. Act with integrity, even when you think others are not looking. I still remember the graduate student who made personal calls to his father on my office phone while I was on maternity leave because he thought he would not get caught. I have known other people who have blown opportunities because they thought they could get away with dishonest dealings. Character shows, and it matters. If you are only looking out for yourself and cutting corners or cheating when you think you can get away with it, people will know and will not want to help you. If you work hard, are honest and generous in your dealings with others, you will find that others want to help you and are honest and generous in their dealings with you. If you don’t have a solid moral center, then at least remember that the sociology profession is a small community, and your reputation will go with you wherever you go.
The final note: These are my own thoughts on the subject and I am sure that some of them reflect my own idiosyncracies, not general rules. Unfortunately, I don’t know which ones. Perhaps others can chime in with their own.
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